Can you have both high self esteem AND low self esteem?
In the theme of breaking down the ‘fluff’ about self esteem, I was wondering today about ‘high self esteem’ and ‘low self esteem’ and whether I could have both simultaneously!
Of course this started the internal debate ‘yes you can’, versus ‘no you can’t', which was quite obviously the low and high self esteem parts of me having a nice little argument …
Anyway, we can settle this fairly easily with the notion of ‘contextual behavior’.
Like me, I am sure you could easily draw a box around the various ‘parts’ of your life. Work, family, friends, hobbies, interests, skill sets, professional background, academic background, ethic background, socio-demographic background, age … you name it. And the truth is, one’s self esteem or self confidence can be quite different in each of these ‘boxes’ - or more accurately ‘contexts’.
The neat thing is, it is possible in each area to start to explore, diagnose and re-pattern exactly how this context is played out. Need to feel more confident around friends, but are already very confident in your professional life? Easy. It is perfectly possible to start to re-map your self esteem from a high self esteem context into another. The good news is that there are many techniques to do this! (by the way, you can sign up for free self esteem techniques at http://www.Instant-Self-Esteem.com/).
Sometimes the difficult part is admitting that the low self esteem context does exist - especially if one does feel quite confident in many other aspects of one’s life!
See you next time!
Robert
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